Marriage is a celebration of love not likes and dislikes
Jesus tells us in this Sunday’s Gospel according to St. Mark 10: 2-16: ‘ What God has united, man must not divide….’
In these verses, Jesus goes to the very heart of marriage, rooted in God’s original plan, and cites the divine law that marriage should be the union between two persons who are attracted to each other by divine magnetism and not by mere physical passions. When two persons come together and bring out the wholeness in each other and ultimately unite with true love, that union is a true marriage. Soul companions, being primarily united in Spirit and love, find the ever-new joy of God as the breath of their existence. The more strongly they become united in love and spirit the less they concentrate on bodily passions and attractions. A marriage without spiritual love remains on the level of Nature’s law of animal union and cannot be termed a divine true marriage, a union of hearts.
Those modern marriages that are born on the quick attractions usually end in some form of physical or mental separation when the likes and dislikes are sated. Wrong marriages, with disunion in love and soul compatibility, lead to misery and the destruction of families, the very fabric of society. Selfishness, lust, physical attraction, external beauty, financial lure in marriage, these are the evil forces that misdirect a person from traveling in the right path that leads to the discovery of a proper soul companion. Man and woman should lead ideal lives and marry only when they are sure they are compatible as soul companions. If man and woman are more spiritual and follow the law of soul attraction and not physical attraction, they will find the right marriage and progress toward freedom in God.
Faith and prayer expand the point of marriage beyond yourselves – to make room for change, forgiveness, and healing – for newness, creativity and beginning again. Without faith, prayer and hope that you can be yourself and be joined together, but marriage could be seen as a constraint and a burden. We all know that love begins with tenderness, but we often forget that love also demands a lot of suffering and sacrifice.
Fr. John CMI
(Fr. John Panamthottam CMI, an Indian priest belonging to the Religious Order of the Carmelites of Mary Immaculate founded by St. Kuriakose Chavara. He is one of the Associate Pastors of St. Stephen’s Cathedral)